I knew this time of year would overwhelm me. Back to school, back to fall, back to the wall. Kindergarten, second grade, the Special Ed Parents Advisory Council, PTO liaising (yeah, liaising, whatever), the meetings, the welcome speeches, the welcome picnics, the ice cream socials, the frantic shopping for that one last thing I forgot (at least four times), the social stories, the new teachers, the new classrooms, the new friends, the new aide, the new visibility, the new uncertainty, the new angst. Oh the angst. My dear friend angst with her spiffy new elementary school make over.
Did I ever tell you that I start planning for Halloween in August? Yup, August. Every year since Katie was born I have started trolling for costume ideas before the start of school. No, I’m not that hyper-organized, scary efficient mom. Not even a little. I know that mom and she scares the cr@p out of me. No, I’m the mom who knows her limitations. I’m the mom who knows full well that she will be a melting puddle of useless unstuffed Mama-ness if she has to start scrambling in October.
October, when the leaves are turning and the apples are ready for picking and the glorious smell of wood smoke scents the air. (Unless you’re out in California and then wood smoke in the fall is anything but glorious and I mean no offense by mentioning it).
October, when meetings ramp up, when my business is at its busiest, when everyone everywhere seems to come out of the woodwork needing – heck demanding - a piece of my time. Yeah, that October.
So, since my kids never, ever want to be something simple .. oh no, no witches or kitty cats here .. it is a matter of self preservation to start early. OK, really, really early.
Last year Katie decided she wanted to be a girl in a bed. What, this surprises you? So I cut and painted the back of a refrigerator box (OK, blatant lie – Luau totally did the painting, but I bought the paint, damn it), bought a piece of cheap quilted fabric, a travel pillow, a whole bunch of shoe laces (did I mention that I don’t sew?), super cute hot pink footie pajamas and Mama MacGyver went to work. A couple of hair bows and a teddy bear later .. voila, one girl in a bed.

Not to be outdone, my sweet Brooke decided that she wanted to be JoJo the Clown. Now, you have to understand how big it is that Brooke wanted to be something. And that she told me what it was. You get that, don’t you? So, never mind the fact that she chose a somewhat obscure Disney character that Michael Eisner and his pals have all but forgotten about. Pay no attention to the fact that the JoJo costume that had been available previously had long since been discontinued. Not relevant. Mama MacGyver turned into Mama Nancy Drew and followed the trail of clues to a woman in Canada who had the darn thing,
So now you know why I start in August.
This year, Katie decided she wanted to be an elephant. Judge me if you will, but I already told you I don’t sew and if you’re paying attention, you might also notice that I am already burning the candle at both ends as it is, so I ordered it. From Canada. What’s up with the Canadians and their costumes? Let’s not question it. God bless our neighbors to the north!

Again, Brooke has kept right up in the ‘picking something random that is not readily available to anyone on the planet’ game. She has decided she wants to be Ming Ming the Duckling from the Wonder Pets. Now Ming Ming is apparently somewhat more popular than one might think at first glance. WITH KIDS UNDER THE AGE OF THREE. The largest size this costume comes in is 2-3T. She’s little, but she ain’t that little. So I’m still trying to figure out how to rig this one. Hullo? A little help here? Oh Canada?

Anyway, back to the point that I abandoned long ago. And I must say that if you’re still with me, well, you’re a true friend. I probably wouldn’t have had the patience to get this far.
Point was and is that I am overloaded. And that I knew I’d be overloaded come this time of year. It ain’t rocket science.
So last year, in anticipation of said overload, I booked a vacation. It starts tomorrow. I haven’t begun to get us ready. I have a social story to write (and read), clothes to find and organize and pack. I have lists to write, obscure items to track down, a calendar to draw, sleep to miss. There are ferry schedules to check, tickets to find and pack and my head to retrieve from somewhere across the room.
But I am excited. I am excited to go back to Nantucket and to write some new history. I am excited that if Brooke stumbles, I’ve got some new tools in my toolbox this year. Maybe I can make it just a little easier. I’m excited to make new memories. I think I’m even ready to confront that damn tree.
I haven’t yet decided whether or not I’ll be going radio silent for the week. In part because I don’t know if we have wifi or not. In part because I don’t know if it would do me good to go without this little world of ours for a week or if I need it too much to want to try.
We’ll see, my friends. Check in. I may stop by. But if not, have a wonderful week!
Wishing a wonderful vacation to you and your family. Also umm maybe you could get a duck costume and add a cape and goggles to it? Would that work?
Amy = candy corn fairy princess
Jack = doctor (scrubs/lab coat)
Costumes ordered.
I’m not organized either.
Can’t sew.
Can’t deal.
Simpatico.
Leaving town on Friday.
Not ready …
and where did Katie get the girl in a bed idea? Creative Genius!!!!
***have a great trip!***
Jess:
I loved your speech and the wonderful way you wrote it. I wish you lived near my grandson. He sounds so much like your daughter. Last week, while waiting for his older brother to get off a camp bus, my grandson (age 8 and on the spectrum) said hello to each kid as they got off the bus. Not one answered and some gave him a strange look. Why can’t parents teach their kids to be tolerant? What does it hurt to say hi to a young boy who so desperately wants a friend? I’m all for suggestions. Can’t we change the world a little bit, maybe one child at a time?
Sheila
I love your creativity. Hope you have a joyful, relaxing vacation.
Have a great time, and I’m totally laughing over here.
I started on Halloween two weeks ago.
Uh – one wants to be Christine Daae from PHANTOM OF THE OPERA – she wants me to walk behind her in a cape and mask and hold a chandelier over her head – meanwhile, I’ve no idea where to find a pre-Raphaelite wig for a 5 year old.
The other? Easy. Mrs. Lovett, the cannibalistic pie maker from SWEENY TODD.
I win.
Hi Jess,
Love LOVE the girl in a bed idea. Why not, right?
Wow, I feel like the embodiment of sloth. I haven’t even thought of Halloween….
What, JoJo is passe now? “Feelin’ good with JoJo, everybody, you can feel good too…” Oh well. I’m always behind the times.
I haven’t yet dared to ask about Halloween costume wishes. I don’t exactly sew, but I do like to do fun stuff with solid-color sweats and sticky-back felt and such, and the girl-in-bed costume is out of this world!!
Have a wonderful vacation.
I am totally stressing about the start of kindergarten next week. Maybe I should focus all of my nervous energy on Halloween instead.
Have a great vacation- hope you are able to relax!
Oh yeah – Jordan: Buzz Lightyear. The costume arrived from ebay three weeks ago. Madeline: a unicorn. We bought the costume THREE YEARS AGO. Yes, my baby girl is only nine months old. We redefine ridiculous and you, dear cousin, seem rational by comparison!
And please, give Nantucket a big hug for us!
As someone who understands overload mode, I hope you have/had a relaxing week. When things get extra crazy and/or dark for me, I try hard to remind myself that things could be so much worse. Case in point — this article by a single mom whose three boys on the spectrum share the same OT as my son:
http://www.chicagoparent.com/article.asp?aID=12650146.3440973.62881.4927746.64668602.673&aID2=4828
You are not alone… Costumes ideas was thrown out to Tatum & Caleb last week. Apple picking scheduled for thte third weekend in Sept. Pumpkin’ picking’, yes schedule for the second week in Oct. On another note, the wish list have already begun for the holidays.. It’s hung on the fridge.. HAHA.. LOVE
Wishing you a wonderful, WONDERFUL, vacation.
Great costumes, BTW!
Again… incredibly late to this post. But strikes the right cord right now. First of all, girl in bed? Genius! I think it is also amazing that Brooke WANTS to be in a costume. For the last two years, Sarah… didn’t love the costumes, but didn’t hate them… now, she flat out kinda can’t stand them. Now whether this is heightened self awareness, or more sensory related issues…who knows? I tried a few out, for various reasons they didn’t work… (one of which she pulled off herself, can we score that for self help? undressing?) when in marches Old Navy, with the brilliant idea of just making a coat into a costume…this way it’s just clothing! I bought 2~